Do I have control over who the adoptive parents will be?
Yes. By law, the mother can select her baby’s adoptive parents based on her personal criteria. 6
Will my child understand my decision?
Many adoptive parents honor and deeply respect the birth parents of their adopted children. They make sure those children understand the strength of character required to make an adoption plan. 7 Remember, you have the right to choose your child’s adoptive parents based on what’s important to you—including their sensitivity to and respect for you as the natural parent.
Will my child feel unwanted?
The adopted child is a wanted child. She is wanted by the mother who chooses to carry her to full term rather than abort her. She is wanted by adoptive parents willing to wait weeks, months, or even years to meet her and make her part of their family. According to adoptive mother and author/editor Eliza Carney, “studies show that adoptees are as well adjusted as their non-adopted peers.” 8
Can I communicate with my child once the adoption is final?
By law, you may opt for an open adoption, in which you can maintain contact and a relationship with your child. 9
Who will cover the costs of the adoption?
The adoptive parents will cover the costs of your legal assistance during the adoption process. 10
What about the costs of my medical care?
Adoption laws in the United States require the adoptive parents to cover the mother’s birth-related medical expenses and living expenses during part of her pregnancy, and for thirty days after her child has been placed with the adoptive parents. 11